Would a scarf in any other font seem so sweet?

I'm not sure what the recent Helvetica font obsession is all about. I guess it's a techy-typographer-underground-graphic designer-type of thing. But I absolutely love this scarf-not because it's in Helvetica, which is actually one of the easiest fonts to read, but because it's just nerdy enough to be fashionable without being too hipster. I promise I'm not posting it here because I want it for Christmas....really. (But just in case you're wondering, I like it in black.)




(Image from: http://www.veer.com/products/merchdetail.aspx?image=VPR0005441)

An ode to rooms past

Ok, I'm trying not to sound like a spoiled tween here, but I miss my own room. Don't get me wrong, I love sharing space with Jonah and building apartment, after apartment, after, nope don't have to built it, it's already done (ever so lovely house he grew up in) with him. There's just something about the solace, the escape from the world, the pink-ness of bedrooms that I created for myself growing up and into my college years. Something about surrounding yourself with objects, colors, blankets etc. that describe and inspire you. I appreciated being able to trash said room in a fit of not knowing what to wear and knowing that no one would discover my temporary bout of insanity. Having a solid home base is crucial in dealing with a crazy world. I feel that my world lately is about moving my laptop from kitchen table to coffee table to den, where I still can't get an internet signal, to back to the kitchen. Moreover, with such frequent moves, I've downsized the very supply of aforementioned objects, fabrics, etc. that describe me materialistically.

I'm having to remind myself now that I don't want to sound like a spoiled 20-something. Downsizing does help moving and there is a healthy aspect to shedding material from the past. Plus, isn't it now in-vogue for affluent couples to have their own rooms? I don't know, I'm not sure that I could get into such formality. But in a break from the recent past, I do long for a solid home base, a place to call my own for, you know, at least a year.

Thoughts on a splinter

Last night, as Jonah diligently attempted to remove a tiny splinter of unknown origin out of my foot, I realized that despite the pain of the tweezers, there was something purely relaxing about being made to sit still. I instantly remembered my love of visiting the doctor. (Provided I am entirely confident of my good health beforehand, whereby you suggest, "then why would you be going to the doctor?) It is the yearly checkup that I love so, and not all of it, but specifically the parts where my nose, ears, mouth and eyes are checked out, followed by the cool stethoscope examining my breathing and heartbeat. I also don't mind the height check. The reason, I deduced last night, was because it too, requires that I sit still. Another instance came to my mind last night of being a portrait model for my roommates while I attended art school. This of course, required complete stillness (not to mention a healthy (?) dose of vanity).

So what is it about being told to sit still that so irritates a child under the age of eight, but for me, creates absolute calm? I believe it is the habit I've gotten into, ever since I understood the meaning of being "productive," that has made me run around like a chicken with it's, you know, trying to get and be and finish and start as many things as possible. Meanwhile, I'm getting absolutely nothing done, drinking questionably unhealthy amounts of coffee, and summarizing my life into periods of procrastination or distraction. I can't count the amount of times I ask myself each day, "What am I doing with my life???," and all those other "woe-is-me" declarations that I will spare you from reading.

Maybe it has something to do with the theory behind meditation... Meditation, like running a mile every morning before breakfast, has become one of those things that I always say would solve all my issues if I could just get into doing it. However, in times like last night, when I was forced to surrender my task-oriented sensibility, I like to think that I practiced a mini-meditation of sorts. And this morning, after deciding that I would run after breakfast (that would be now), the radio, which normally opens my day with the grim economic forecast and the traffic report reminding me that I don't own a car, has remained off. While the ticking of the wall clock coupled with the keystrokes of my computer is starting to sound rather zen.

'Word Play' on 'No Play and All Work'

I just realized that busy-ness, as in being busy, would be spelled (if it were a word?) as either busy-ness (nah) or busi-ness. Business. Hmm. That explain a lot.

In conversation, what is 'off limits?'

A few years ago, a friend told me there were two things she didn't talk about with friends and family alike. They were, and are: politics and religion. I was confused and angry after hearing this. After all, she was a fairly liberal person, artistic, open-minded. Why would she be so closed off to debating about two of the most relevant subjects of our lives? The answer: she hates arguing. And generally that's what any "discussion" about these two always controversial topics, turns into. Wouldn't it be great if we could all comfortably present our ideas on these two topics, or any topic for that matter, and simply agree to disagree. Or, even better, leave a little wiggle room in our respective ideologies to grow and develop. How idealistic for me to think this way, especially when I am the first to notice my blood pressure rising when I hear or see support of John McCain and Sarah Palin.

So, if my friend was right, and it is best to steer clear of politics and religion, what can we talk about that really matters? Don't get me wrong. I don't want to talk string theory over dinner or anything, but I think we could all benefit by making conversational strides towards understanding the most heated differences we possess. And if there's one thing that I can't stand, it's feeling awkward about asking questions or stating my opinion. What happened to that person who said "No question is a dumb question?" When I was a kid, I asked my parent's friend how much money she makes. The response was like, "Ashley (!) you don't ask something like that! " Huh? Well, I wanted to know. I had no idea whether workers were paid the equivalent of my allowance per hour or what being rich or poor actually meant-everyone looked the same to me in those days. Today I still have no idea.

Jonah and I are supposedly middle class, if you take into account that we have enough food to eat, clothes that are nice enough, and can count on never being homeless (although we can't take this for granted). So I guess if there's one thing that I'd like to talk about if I have to set God and Obama on the shelf, is money. Take for example today, I got my hair cut at the Aveda Institute. It's a school for hair dressers and their rate is $15 for a haircut. Pretty much the cheapest besides SuperCut, and a far better result, even with the varying skill levels of the students. When the girl cutting my hair asked what kind of shampoo I used, and I answered "Pantene" I felt as if I had just been caught wearing Keds in a room full of stilletos. In a way though, it speaks to my economic status. Yes, Pantene is 5-ish dollars, and that was my primary reason for buying it. Now, from what I could infer about my later conversation with the hairdresser, her financial situation was much like mine. But apparently she appreciates good shampoo.

So, here's the thing: It's easy with credit to act like you're rich, but everything must be repaid someday. On the flip side, actually having money doesn't guarantee happiness-so what is money's real worth? Contrary to debating what happens after death, and regardless of who will be our next president, money is something that everyone agrees is real and necessary. Today, it seems as if we can tell how much people make by the car they drive, the clothes they wear, the shampoo they use, etc., but what does this really show? What if the “look of money” is more important to people, than actual happiness and debt-free living. The “it” bag, designer labels, cars, shoes, hair, cell phone, iphone. Then there are the big houses, the nanny, the housekeeper.


What if we all had the same size houses, there was only one kind of automobile, and clothes producers were no longer able to place logos on their products? What about healthy competition in the market, you ask? Well, is hasn’t done us very good lately. I don’t know if I’m starting to sound like a socialist (and I’m still not clear on what is so bad about socialism) but what if the government were to have more of a hand in capping prices for the previously listed items? No more $150 pairs of jeans? That’d be alright.

See, I’m not sure if money is a touchy subject for people. I’ve had conversations in the past couple of weeks about bargain shopping, coupons, how much money I’m willing to spend on shampoo, etc. Maybe the sensitive issue is salary. Countless talented people go unappreciated (financially and artistically) in our society. But I think the real issue is that there just doesn’t seem to be enough money in the hands of those who truly need it. And until real changes are made and wealth is more evenly distributed, it will continue to be a topic that we discuss-uncomfortable or not. Maybe we need to focus privately on whatever Faith/God we believe in to know that things will get better, while also taking politics off the shelf, discussing the issues, and not being afraid to argue, especially in times like these.

Look for me in suburbia

Well, it's been a while. My new life in suburbia is apparently a full-time job. Let me start with the family home and the two kids, a boy and a girl. No, they're not mine, thank god, but they are cute. I guess they've grown on me. And they are a full-time job-40+ hours a week, which is good because I can temporarily stop looking for jobs, but not so good because I don't want to be a full-time mom, even though I'm labeled as a nanny. It's weird because, as a nanny, I am responsible for so much of the discipline of the children and also to play with them on their level, to teach them and to take them places. At the same time, I do not have the same bond with them as their parents', and I even worry about whether they like me. I never thought I'd say this, but I catch myself not only wondering, but worrying whether the 5-year old girl thinks I'm mean.

A few years ago, I babysat two two-year old boys on the weekends. I felt closer to those two boys than I do to the current children for a couple of reasons. First, they were both boys and for whatever reason I relate more to boy children than girl children. Coincidentally I took a six-question quiz in "Chicago Parent" magazine (at the kids' house) today that supposedly answered the question of what gender I would be a better parent for, because apparently, I guess these days you can choose. Riiight. Anyway, the most ridiculous part of the quiz was that, no matter what you answer, the quiz states that you're actually a great parent for either gender. Hmm. So, I analyzed the question myself during the kids' nap time. One of the reasons, as I spoke of before, is that I relate to the way boys deal with problems: being physical rather than emotional, yelling rather than crying, pointing blame rather than taking responsibility/compromising. I guess the other reason why I related to the two boys is that they had dark hair. I know this sounds crazy, but when you're a babysitter/nanny, there is something that happens when you go out in public when you say to yourself, "Do people think this is my kid?" or "Am I even old enough to have a kid?" Now when the kid(s) have light blonde hair and I have black hair, the chances of them being my kids is pretty slim. Although a nice older woman on the street the other day told me I had a beautiful child. I nodded with a smile, but uncomfortably, and as if I was taking credit for something I didn't create. Oh well, I guess people will believe whatever they want.

On an unrelated note, but sticking with my suburban theme, I baked cupcakes this weekend. The cupcake tin was my first piece of bakeware that I have purchased, well, ever. Pumpkin-chocolate-chip cupcakes with creamcheese (one word?) frosting and cinnamon icing. A little underdone, but you can't tell that from the picture.

The Saturday that I never want to end

So...nice....to....sleep......in.

boom box, headphones, heating pad, CD holder, meat grinder (Evanston)

I had to laugh when I saw this post. If you say it out loud it actually has a nice rhythmical thing going on. I found it in the 'free' section on craigslist.org today. It's a virtual treasure trove of everything from hair cuts to the above, and really an underutilized tool in my life. Every time that I am reminded of its existence I regain a bit of hope that not everything in this world is based on dollars and cents.

Another inspiring posting was titled, "Home-cooked Thanksgiving dinner for a family in need (Chicago)." Note: this is free, for up to 8 people (!), is delivered fully cooked, and includes everything from turkey to pie.

Two days with a job and I'm making political basketball analogies

How ironic that just a week ago, I was spouting off about a lovely and inspirational piece of dark purple toile... Ironic because for the past two days I have done little except for steaming endless layers of white, off-white, ivory, eggshell, vanilla, and other shades of bride for the not-so-charming people of Maggie Sottero. She is, I have learned, a big designer in the niche market of bridal and prom dresses, and is participating in the semi-annual Bridal Market at the Merchandise Mart in downtown Chicago. It was two weeks ago when I answered the add for steamers, dressers, and general helpers on craigslist and thought, "Hmm...sounds like an interesting gig." Well it has been interesting. Actually the first day proved to be fairly satisfying. I found a sudo-zen-like way of steaming the fabric, visualizing the 'before's and the 'after's, watching the ugly creases and wrinkles wash away with the magic touch of my steaming wand. Twenty-four hours later, and a second day of waking up before the sun, I was mentally (and maybe a few times audibly) cursing the idea of marriage. Even after a large cup of coffee and a lunch of brown rice sushi-nothing-no zen, no fantasies that at the last minute, they might need a model and see me, Cinderella, drowning in a sea of taffeta, and ask me to retire my steamer and strike a pose.

At first, I thought this post might be about the decadence of modern-day weddings and how they have become a way to equate love with money spent, but I'll save that for later (try to control your elation). You see, I have known and still know, people who are eloquent, wise, honest, thoughtful, inspiring, lovely...and obviously not perfect. They sometimes don't use proper grammar, are too formal, much too informal, overly concerned with what other people think, forget my birthday, make me question what I want to believe is true, etc. etc. But still, I appreciate them because they are human and humans are messy and strange creatures-far from perfect. That is why it will always amaze me when I see people judging others in a way that very clearly speaks to a belief in class or social hierarchy. I don't need to travel two mental steps to think of the greatest example: cliques in high school. It seems silly to think that this behavior was confined to the teenage years. Later, in college, I was up to my ears in talk of gender, ethnic and class inequality around the world, but I have been naive to think that it wasn't happening in this country. Moreover, it's happening amongst my peers (!) who have grown up in the digital age (!) where they have no excuse not to know the consequences of creating divisions within your own species. It completely relates to the current financial crisis and the competing opinions regarding the bailout. For example, when a (fiscally conservative) person calls for a smaller government role and more hard-earned money to remain in his/her own pocket, are they not then saying that it is greater to take care of oneself than the common man (through taxes and government programs [which he/she actually benefits from])? In tough economic times, it is so easy to fight for every scrap, to feel that the guy sitting next to me with a blackberry is just some jerk in a suit, and for the fashionistas to think that the temporary workers who are steaming wedding gowns for eight hours a day are insignificant. It's tough when we live in a place and time where what you do and how much money you make defines who you are.

That is why we cannot afford to continue the "high school" way of life in adulthood. We must resist the temptation to use technology simply for entertainment, gossip and text messages, and instead use it to learn about what's going on in Asia, Africa, and Alaska, for god's sake. Now, of all the topics this post could have been about, I swore Sarah Palin was not in the running. But those three As do sound really good together, and because she's now apparently in the running to be Vice President, I guess she's worth mentioning. The fact that this race is about whether or not we look like/relate financially/or discriminate against the same populations as the candidates only reinforces unhealthy divisions in this country. This time however, we've cohesively rallied around the middle class cause we're all feeling like the little guy. Yet, in the end, and as always, the promises that are made pre-election are a sneaky but effective way to win, and that's generally all. I'm not saying all politicians are bad-they hold a necessary and extremely difficult post and a little fibbing is necessary to calm the fears of the majority of Americans. But politicians, to me, represent more than rhetoric. They represent a standard of morality, a role of leadership for us to follow. They are responsibly through words and actions how Americans are seen around the world, whether the U.S. contributes its real fair share of humanitarian aid and whether the rich in this country just get richer or actually have to pay their taxes. Palin is so unqualified and inexperienced-it is like a losing team (the Republicans) being embarrassed about their captain (Bush), so they beat him up behind the school and buy new uniforms and get better looking cheerleaders with the prettiest one to yell the loudest (Palin). If you've ever heard a cheer, you know their not all that deep, but they're delivered with one hell of a smile. What's missing behind the repition and rhymes is morality, and soon you're just fighting the other team, and calling them names. That is not leading a nation in a difficult time-that is winning a popularity contest.

Now, if I've ever read a good blog post, and I've read quite a few, I know that they have a theme and a point. Well, I had a theme at one time and made a few points, and it's not perfect-but I'm o.k. with that.